Goals

Why do so many of us not realize our goals? Perhaps it’s in the way we define them. A goal as something we hold in the future – an achievement we hope to accomplish, something we are thinking about, something not yet in our grasp. This allows us to attach a “someday, maybe” feeling to those goals. Napoleon Hill says that “A goal is a dream with a deadline”. Once…

Who Are You Promoting?

The dating scene can be a real minefield.   One of the biggest complaints of the on-line dating circus is that no one is who they say they are. It’s a conglomeration of liars posting out-dated or photo-shopped images of themselves, overstating their marketable assets, advancing their freedom status and understating their age. Once you catch on, the deceit is inescapable. If everyone else is lying or exaggerating, then I have…

Are you a match to yourself?

I was recently with a client who came to me for coaching with dating.  He explained that he was  active on a couple of online dating sites and had also signed on with a professional matchmaking service and had become very discouraged in his attempts to find a suitable love match.  We talked about how he described himself on these sites and he announced with a grin that he had…

Second Act

The fog has finally started to lift.  You notice that there are longer stretches of the day when your former love is not the predominant thought plaguing your mind like a persistent ghost. You are starting to remember how to make plans that only include you. The loss does not feel quite so suffocating and immobilizing. You are no longer devastated. You are ready to look to your future with…

Love… What a Euphoric and Frustrating Thing…

Love is not logical. In our human need to make sense of things and how and why they happen, we are missing the point when it comes to our love relationships. Love is a feeling, the expression of emotion. It is borne of desire. It is the mysterious nature of love that gives it the capacity to be both euphoric and deeply frustrating.  In our efforts to make sense of…

Live Life on Purpose

You’ve probably heard the new mantra about living a life on purpose. What does that really mean? Don’t we all feel like we’re just plodding along, one foot in front of the other, one day following the next, fulfilling routine tasks and responsibilities? It’s the stuff of life. Most days seem to dictate themselves with little room left to negotiate choice.  Are we attending to these things on purpose? I…